Revealing Personal Secrets.. (pros and cons)




Have you ever revealed a personal secret to your friend? I believe all of us have secrets... Some of them maybe dark secrets? hehe...
Example secrets taken from click a confession website
1) I am Armandy i am a guy and i like to wear womens panties. (bwahahaha iwwww)
2) I can not help myself. I'm constantly wanting to have sex. I masturbate all the time. What can a girl do? ( oh no....)

Well, back to the topic... there are pros and cons when your secret will be revealed either accidentally or intentionally. First is the effect to the person who knew the secret. You may look bad especially when the secret is unexpected. Nonacceptance will follow somehow depends on the person's mind either they have broad minds or shallow. Friendship may build gaps and that you may need to extend effort to bridge that gap and allow him/her to accept you again.

Nonetheless, there are many benefits in revealing a secret to a person you can call "confidant". People reveal secrets because they want to feel better and wish to gain new insights from the person they have revealed their secrets... There are just important things to remember before the revelation: choose a confidant that can keep a secret, nonjudgmental people is necessary as to avoid you to be jeopardized, discreet and who were able to offer advices for your self betterment.

BE CAREFUL... AND DO NOT TELL ME YOUR SECRET AS I AM NOT DISCREET HEHEHE...

HAPPY TEACHER'S DAY

I didn't expect that few of my students will surprise me today 23 September 2008 (late blog entry). From the time I open my eyes, out of my awareness, Brunei is commemorating "Selamat Hari Guru" in English "Teacher's Day".

Routine tasking was on my mind's thought the moment I sat on my office chair... I was checking my post-it note on task to do... yet out of my expectations: two students brought a bouquet of roses approaching me and Rocel (my co-teacher) and they hand us those beautiful flowers and greeted us "Happy Teachers Day!!!" I was indeed overwhelmed... It's a good feeling knowing that the people whom you render your service do appreciate your efforts. Although I am paid for that but the thought of knowing you are valued really matters. People say, if you work or do something, you should not expect anything in return, yet a simple gesture of thank you and I appreciate your work or a job well done really matters.

Moral of the story? hehe.. well, we should not weigh the magnitude of what other people have done for us. Either it's petty or big favor it would be best if we can return the favor with a simple appreciation. Saying thank you satisfy a helping hand... saying I appreciate your effort, lighten an exhausted soul from the efforts poured out while helping you. It's good to feel you not are worthless..

the photos herewith are all the symbols of appreciations from my students and it makes me feel so happy... Thank you dear students... I am glad to be at your service for as long as I can...




Chocolates and my teacher's pet love note hahaha... home baked cookies with almond inside...






Tenfu Mini Pie

and my 12 roses bouquet....





chai love's my blog




MY THIRD AWARD... I LOVE THIS...

Thank you CHAI (CF) for being my blog reader and my supporter, you are one of my inspirations why I have to update my blog because I know that you look forward for updates ahehehe (tama ba chai or over ko? hehe)

... Ladies and Gentlemen, without further ado I would like to feature chai for being soooo close yet so far away... People's perception about her is that she's "SUPLADA"but in fact she's not... she's a good soul... she can dance with whatever tune I may play (not literally, I mean she can get along with any people from all walks of life...she's just resrved though).

THANK YOU CHAI FOR APPRECIATING MY BLOG...

You want to know who is she there she is.... tan tararaan....

Hi chai.. don't be mad for not asking your permission to feature you ha.. hehehe... i love this gal... keep on rocking girl...





8 things about me

8 random things you may or may not know about me . Thank you so much Molit (FC) and Amor for this Tag. So common try to know me better from these 8 facts extracted from my life's fact sheets.

1. When I was 1st yr hi-skul, a crowd saw my ass (pwet) hehe. Why? because there was a Student Body election and my friends were very keen to know the result so we waited until the counting was over yet I have this nature call and I can't stop it already but then the toilet was so dirty so I ran onto a big TREE sat down there and put down my panty and whew I pee. When I was having a pee, I heard a crowd yelling and whistling and when I step out from hiding the big TREE everyone in the campus were looking at me huhuhu... My world stop, I thought that the big TREE covered my ASS yet people saw me and my bum bum huhuhu I am so embarassed and a senior approach me and tell me that everybody saw my ass when I pee behind that asshole tree... What can I do? I have exposed my ass already so I just walk out and wave to them KAYA NYO YON? (can you do that?) hehe...

2. I pretend to be "dalaga" or had my first period when I was grade six hehe.. coz most of my friends were dalaga already and I'm a late bloomer so I pretended. I show them my panty with a blood but I actually dip it in a water mixed with "red jubos" a coloring powder. So liar huh? The reason why I did that because they always teases me that I don't have the right to have a bf or even a crush either yet since I haven't had my first period huhuhu... Honestly I got my first period when I was second year high school 2 yrs after my pretension hehehe shhhh its our secret k.

3. I talk when I sleep and sometimes I even sing. My kuya's friend who slept over at my place next to my room overheared me singing but he doesn't know that its me, so he awakened my kuya with a frightened face and ask "Paul, may multo na kumakanta" hahaha (there's a ghost singing)... he thought I was a ghost but my kuya didn't tell him that it's me even though kuya knows it's me. Until the next morning, he ask around if they heard a girl singing the previous night and everyone laugh at him bwahahaha...

4. I love to sleep with a soft music playing on a radio or playing on my ears. over mp3 pla MP3's (oldies songs preferably)

5. I sleep while riding jeepney or BUS. I always missed to say "Para" in english Stop to the driver at my destination point because I fall asleep.

6. I have a number of failure lovelife... not once, not twice but many... huhuhu... but I'm stronger now because of those failures... I've been a lot too not to mention them... but it's a lot...

7. I put my family first before me... When I was studying I said to myself. I should be able to graduate and land with a good job so that I can help my family and let them experience a comfort living... poor lang po kami hehe. (we're just poor).. although I fail to give them a very comfortable living as I have dreamed before but I'm happy because a little fraction of that dream was realized.

8. I am a hopeless romantic dreamer... I have so many dreams and imaginations. I even want to write those dreams and published it as a novel hehe but I am also a frustrated writer... you want a piece of it ok short lng to just a synopsis...

I day dream this when I was hand washing my brothers dirty clothes and school uniforms after I came home from school that was high school.

" I was dreaming living in a kubo (small house) and that kubo is near in a cold spring where I always do the laundry, the place is like paradise... there are fruit trees around birds are singing with me until a handsome lost traveler saw me and seek help yet I can't help him as my world revolves to my kubo and my spring until he decided to stay with me forever..." it's a long story i just make it short kc mapapagod kyo eh hehe... Thus, I am a certified hopeless romantic but it's fiction, a fantasy but I am not living in that fantasy because I know that reality is more chaotic, painful, challenging but happier than fantasy... there are more to reality of life than fantasy yeah?

Done. Now I want these 8 bloggers to blog 8 things about them and these are as follows:

1. Chai

2. Hazel

3. kai

4. surri

5. Hayati

6. Bojoy

7. Reev-o

8. benhyde


And the RULES are:

1. Each player starts with eight random facts/habits about themselves.
2. People who are tagged need to write their own blog about their eight things and post these rules.
3. At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.
4. Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them they’re tagged, and to read your blog.


The effect of betrayal: How to trust again?





Somewhere along a couple's journey, betrayal may arise. There are a lot of possible reasons why this shit happens. It could be communication breakdown, one night stand, failure of fulfilling each others needs, frequent fights, insensitivity, selfishness and etc...

Now let me ask you, if it happens to you, I mean you've been betrayed what should you do? Will you quit breathing? or keep bleeding? hehe... well, they said that when you love you have to love everything and that includes the "dark side of the person". Nobody's perfect yeah? If you've been betrayed, never make decision because you are in pain, getting over grief is a process so keep on grieving until the pain subside and what's next to that?

Moving on...

Moving on does not necessarily means goodbye or otherwise it can be goodbye. Decision is for you to take but be careful of the consequences of whatever decision you may take. When you chose to stay, then stop blaming yourself or blaming him for what happened it will never worked, according to Coleman a divorce specialist "confront your doubts and fears. Instead of blaming, try to discover why the relationship wasn't as solid as either person believed." This is if when you chose to save your relationship.

Have you heard any success story about
love for the second time around? This is very difficult to achieve because TRUST is broken... If this may work, that is because two of you has worked hard for it, both of you have taken ownership for every issue that may provoke to bring back the past. Suspicious acts will drive you crazy which would awaken the pain you have had. Thus, it ain't easy.

One option is to totally move on and that is moving on to a new relationship. Just remember something before you get paranoid again with your new lover, "the person you meet is NOT the person who betrayed you". Being vigilant is different from being paranoid so instead remain to be cautious.

I just want to make a comment, why most woman (not all) is more open for forgiveness than man? When a woman betrayed a man the fraction to be forgiven is so little yet man can simply say I didn't betray or something I am just a MAN (defense mechanism yet its universal huh?) and that is bullshit... (peace to all male readers over there...)



Mr. and Ms Friendship



I love the blogs of these people and I'm glad to pass this award onto them! All they need to do is to leave the following message on their post when they pass the award on to their chosen eight bloggers.
They all are charmed with the blogs, where in the majority of its aims are to show the marvels and to do friendship; there are persons who are not interested when we give them a prize and then they help to cut these bows; do we want that they are cut or that they propagate? Then let's try to give more attention to them! So with this prize we must deliver it to 8 bloggers but i just want to share it with 6 that in turn must make the same thing and put this.

than you Chai and Molit for giving me this award. You always inspire me to write huh? hehe...

Although most of the people whom I frequently blog hop got this award already but I would like to let you guys know that you rock the blog world. So my 6 chosen awardees for this are as follows:

|Chai| Molit | Hazel| Bojoy| Bonz | Amor |


DANCE WITH ME

Sometimes we get bored with the place where we were. Overfamiliarity indeed with every corner of the spot where we perform our daily routine. However, we can make a difference. We can have fun with those people we always get along with, laugh with, quarrel with, gossip with by transforming the usual place to a dance floor maybe or to a karaoke bar.

This post would not be long though I should say it's less informative but I just want to leave a message that sometimes in a simple lifestyle, you can find genuine happiness just spice it up and I call it precious moments...

the video below is taken during our wacky moments with my so-called circle of friends: they are my cousins, my uncles, and neighbors and its fun.



how to deal with stress

Stress is always my problem while working.. I have so many things to do yet so little time. I have so many plans yet I don't have the luxury of time and that's why I end up stressed out most of the time..

I've read an article on how to deal with stress, as expected it's about taking a walk like 15 - 20 minutes everyday but this is difficult when your working hours is not regular like mine. Another tip is to have a mental sick leave haha... well yeah sometimes even if we are not physically ill but mentally we are so we should then take a mental sick leave huh? is there such thing?hmmm

Yoga too but I don't have idea how to do it, its an expense if I spend paying an instructor yeah? Instructional DVD's might help but then again where? and do I have the time oh no? Where because many people live their lives having no privacy and I'm one of them, I longed for that. It's good to be alone sometimes and meditate but it's always a problem of finding place where to do it, specially in urban areas where the neighborhood is sooo annoying, or you are sharing a room with others.

Nature retreat. I attest to this because everytime I embrace nature I just feel so free and so happy; beaches, rain forest, river, waterfalls, overlooking landscapes oh man it's the best. The question is how often we could do this? Hindrances: well money, time and avaialable leave...


Subic - Ocean Adventure

Subic - Ocean Adventure











Baguio City


IGACoS - My Hometown


Lose your temper. it's good to scream and yell but of course you have to choose the right medium haha.. you can shout out facing yourself in the mirror when ur pissed or at the toilet when ur mad at your boss hehe..make sure the toliet is sound proof then. Or you can write what you feel on a piece of paper, burn it and throw it just like throwing your anger too.





Laugh.. LOL.. laugh out loud, when you laugh, it gives you good mood. Try to appreciate little fun, don't be Kill joy.








Satisfy the hungry stomach. Although its not mentioned in the article that I've read but personally, eating food that you crave when your stress can help as well. Eating our favorite food is a satisfaction thus, it makes us feel good.


Sushi + kikoman +wassabe = wow... slurp...


A touch of LOVE. For me knowing that someone loves u very much and likewise you do can really help stress subside. Hugging, holding hands, kissing, body massage, ML. This can indeed alleviate stress. Human touch is indeed remarkable. It helps lift up your spirit, it allows your brain to pause working and leaving you in a peaceful state isn't it wonderful?




Do you have your ways in dealing with stress? Why don't you share?? hehe

What Does My Birth Month Reveal About Me? (February)


A friend share this link to me where you will get some "PRESUMPTION" about you being born which month of the year. Let me share my description then:

Ooopsss let me tell you first I was born on Feb. 12 198? haha...

here it goes but let me defend or should I say react coz I guess I knew myself better that someone else:


  • Abstract thoughts - yeah, I think so! I always thought of double meaning to some instances such as actions, words spoken or written, body language...
  • Loves reality and abstract - of course... I agree...
  • Intelligent and clever - ahemmm... i'm not the one who said it... haha.. Well just so so but I'm trying hard yet I don't consider myself stupid too, sometimes maybe like in LOVE? bwahaha...
  • Changing personality - haha got right... I have tantrums beware...
  • Attractive - whatt?? no comment.. you better comment then...
  • Sexy - Used to be what now I gained wet oh sorry I gained weight haha..
  • Temperamental - yah but I can control
  • Quiet, shy and humble - um... I don't think so yet if you are a stranger to me then I won't bother ur existence hehehe...
  • Honest and loyal - Yah I am but if my patience run over... sorry my fidelity would be over too...
  • Determined to reach goals - yeah I guess...
  • Loves freedom - I affirm to that... who don't want freedom yeah?
  • Rebellious when restricted - VERY TRUE... restrict me and you'll loose me hehe...
  • Loves aggressiveness - bwahaha in what??? but I admit I love aggressive people coz I am
  • Too sensitive and easily hurt - Yeah I am... I affirm
  • Gets angry really easily but does not show it - true... but when I'm really pissed off watch out...
  • Dislike unnecessary things - yah.. Im practical... just want the necessity of life in terms of material...
  • Loves making friends but rarely shows it - haha.. true...
  • Daring and stubborn - I think so.. what do you think?
  • Ambitious - Indeed... Day dreamer...
  • Realizing dreams and hopes - one step at a time though but I'm a go getter
  • Sharp - as inn sharp teeth? or nose? or tongue? hahaha...
  • Loves entertainment and leisure - more to movies and concerts...
  • Romantic on the inside not outside - Please help me affirm with this? am I?
  • Superstitious and ludicrous - sometimes I am superstitious but I affirm I am ludicrous (i am foolish most of the time haha, naugty I should say)
  • Spendthrift - whattt? tlga? maybe cause until now, I don't have much savings hahaha...
  • Tries to learn to show emotions - r u saying im hiding it and yet trying hard? haha... cge na nga yah right...

PEACE IN MINDANAO







Cagayan de Oro Canopy Walk










Mt. Apo Rain Forest










Zamboanga's white beachline and attractive vinta



News (world news and Philippine news) is always part of my morning thought after waking up. I don’t totally read all the pages of Inquirer.net and Yahoo home page news. In fact I only read headlines few paragraph due to morning rush hours. However today (this was last Tuesday, but haven't finish my article hehe), I felt a sudden gloom after reading the column “Davao BUS Blast killed 6” report. Not again... the bomb is planted in a mobile phone which killed 8 and has left 30 plus wounded oh no...

From the time I gained social consciousness, the word Mindanao sounds the home of terrorist for foreigners already. Shit huh?




" Mt. Apo - The grandfather of Philippine Mountains"







I have grown up in a beautiful place Island Garden City of Samal IGACoS and it’s such a dwelling place with the white beaches, warm people and green environment. I also gained my education in the neighboring place, DAVAO CITY, a very big and enriched with natural resources city. I can really pronounce that DAVAO is beautiful and wonderful.


Do you crave for fresh, tasty and cheap fruits?? How about fresh and beautiful flowers?? How about rainforest?? You can have it all in Davao. Apart from the natural resources of Davao alone, the neighboring towns that complete Mindanao are even more scenic. The Maria Christina Falls in Iligan, the beautiful and famous Island Camiguin, the colored vinta of zamboanga and its famous sotanghon, the Surfing spot of Surigao also known as the home of King Crabs and Prawns. There are a lot to see and experience in Mindanao yet it is more famous as the the home of the terrorist (Danger zone) of the Philippines. The home of freaks and stupid warriors.



(The photos herewith are just few of the places to go and experience, in Mindanao there are a lot more to see)




In Brunei, the famous Makati is the most talked of my students. It is a place in the Philippines they were so amazed with. But they have not explored the other beautiful places of the Philippines. A lot of instances that many Bruneians asked me same question “Orellie, which part in Philippines do you come from?” and of course I will say Davao City, if they don’t know Davao City I need to mention Mindanao. And you know what? Although it is in a form of a joke but they will tell me “are you a member of Abu Sayaff”. We don’t want to go at your place, we better stay in Manila. See? As a grown up in Mindanao, it pains me because there are so many civilians in Mindanao like me and probably you who wants Mindanao to be known as beautiful, awesome, wonderful and all those adjectives that should supposed to be thought by people not the WAR ZONE area where kidnappings are rampant, military assault against Abu Sayaff is constant, bombings and a lot more..

Is there a hope for Mindanao? I can’t forget the 2 consecutive DAVAO bombings in the airport and seaport, I have even few friends who became victims. Many civilians suffered because of what? conflicts? politics? money? power? I don’t understand. Sayang lang kasi ang Mindanao nasisira ang GANDA.

WHAT CAN WE DO THEN? I'm so BLUR...


Del Monte Philippine packing - one of the largest Pineapple plantation in the world having 9,000 hectares land area. wow!!

All pictures are obtained from and if you want to know more about Mindanao too, just click the link..Mindanao Travel Spots, you can also click the links of famous places in mindanao I mentioned above to redirect you to the LGU official website.