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Somewhere along a couple's journey, betrayal may arise. There are a lot of possible reasons why this shit happens. It could be communication breakdown, one night stand, failure of fulfilling each others needs, frequent fights, insensitivity, selfishness and etc...
Now let me ask you, if it happens to you, I mean you've been betrayed what should you do? Will you quit breathing? or keep bleeding? hehe... well, they said that when you love you have to love everything and that includes the "dark side of the person". Nobody's perfect yeah? If you've been betrayed, never make decision because you are in pain, getting over grief is a process so keep on grieving until the pain subside and what's next to that?
Moving on...
Moving on does not necessarily means goodbye or otherwise it can be goodbye. Decision is for you to take but be careful of the consequences of whatever decision you may take. When you chose to stay, then stop blaming yourself or blaming him for what happened it will never worked, according to Coleman a divorce specialist "confront your doubts and fears. Instead of blaming, try to discover why the relationship wasn't as solid as either person believed." This is if when you chose to save your relationship.
Have you heard any success story about love for the second time around? This is very difficult to achieve because TRUST is broken... If this may work, that is because two of you has worked hard for it, both of you have taken ownership for every issue that may provoke to bring back the past. Suspicious acts will drive you crazy which would awaken the pain you have had. Thus, it ain't easy.
One option is to totally move on and that is moving on to a new relationship. Just remember something before you get paranoid again with your new lover, "the person you meet is NOT the person who betrayed you". Being vigilant is different from being paranoid so instead remain to be cautious.
I just want to make a comment, why most woman (not all) is more open for forgiveness than man? When a woman betrayed a man the fraction to be forgiven is so little yet man can simply say I didn't betray or something I am just a MAN (defense mechanism yet its universal huh?) and that is bullshit... (peace to all male readers over there...)
er.. anything happen orellie? heh... i been to that stage b4.. so move on is better choice and to show the other half (Ex) know that without him/her we can live better! haha
hi LENGLENG... something happen to me? hehe secret.. yah guess ur right!!! moving on and letting your ex know that u can be better off without him or her will be the best option... thanks for the visit...
oi, nganong nakapost man kag ingon ani? unsa man nah? presko ba nah nga issue?hehe, anyway, salamat sa pagbalik nimo sa friendship award ha.hehe
balik balik lang ko..
hi chai,
thanks again for being my avid fan as I am to u hehe.. it's good to rock the blog world huh? sarap maki chismis sa mga buhay ng may buhay hahaha...
Um, it's not fresh but I'm just looking back kc dba ang hndi marunong lumingon sa pinanggalingan ay madadapa hehe... but i'm healed and happy look at my smile oh.. (grin) <-;
ur welcome...thanks too for the award... am i really worth it?hahaha... well i'm ur #1 dba? hehe
amping charing... mao na inyong words of encouragement no? hehe.. nice one...
halu FC..maka comment man sad ta aneh na post oi.. why? nano? bakit?..hehe...
hope na kung unsa man nka bother sa imoha ma Ok naka soon..hehe..
always remember na you have "GOD up there " and friends like us down here..charing!.. kami ang mga angel sa lupa.. dili lang kaayo halata!..hehe...
amping!...:)
tama diay leng.kami diay to ni molit ang mga anghel na walang langit
FC and CF... thanks sa advice... and 4 cheering me up.. yah i know ur orellie's angel kulang pa isa ksino gus2 apply? hahaha..... pero seriously im over that... life is like dat...
hah! wala kay mabuhat kay lalake man me! sabta nga ulipon me mga lalake sa among uwag! unya kamo wala moy karapatan kay babae man mo! hahahahah! atik lang
pag square mo oi! hagarag sumbagay! lubaa! para quits na mo!
bitaw leng asang justice?! kung babae gane makasala murag grabeeeeeeeeee na au, pero lalake gane normal lng daw kuno. wa mo kuyapi! hahahaha..ulbo ako kaspa!