PROS AND CONS OF A QUARREL




When you argue with someone else you will never cease until you prove yourself right. Why do we quarrel? Indeed we quarrel because we wanted to pursue our conviction that the other person is wrong because we are right. However, the person you are quarreling with is as well thinking the same way as you do. Thus, nobody shall give up and it will never cease nor shall end with good conclusion.

One drawback of a quarrel is that the more you say for reasons of expressing what you feel even if it’s not right but you believe it is right would probably hurt the other party and because the other party was upset and got hurt then he/she would probably hurt you back.

When I taught English for business communication subject, it says that one major disadvantage of oral communication is that it is by far likely produces more mistakes since it is spontaneous. Once you've said it, you can’t take it back. That’s why when you hurt someone verbally, no matter how sorry you are the damage has been done.

But one good benefit of a quarrel is the realization of who really is right. Is it you or the other party? When you are over the anger or have composed yourself back, it’s good to review what have been said by you and the person you are quarreling with. Then, you will find out who is right. Acceptance of your fault and probably the other party’s fault is necessary otherwise, it will take you a lifetime to resolve such issue or you’ll get tired of arguing over and over the same old story.

BUT, acceptance is not easy, as I have mentioned in my past post humans are built up with PRIDE and it’s very difficult to combat with PRIDE because it’s an evil creation.

1 Response
  1. Tyrfing Says:

    don't argue with a debater

    beer is your only best friend